"Narcissist" has become one of the most overused words in modern culture. We hear it everywhere. Ex-partners are narcissists. Parents are narcissists. Bosses are narcissists. Anyone who appears self-focused, difficult, controlling, or hurtful risks being labeled with the term. The problem is that most people don't actually understand what narcissism is. When most people use the word, they are referring to an inflated sense of self—someone who believes they are more important,

A Nervous System Perspective on Boundaries, Disappointment, and Vulnerability We often talk about “needs” and “desires” as if they’re clean categories. But in somatic work, the distinction isn’t conceptual — it’s regulatory. I tend to differentiate needs and desires less by definition and more by nervous system impact. What Makes Something a Need? A need is something that, if chronically unmet, destabilizes the system. When a true need isn’t protected, you’ll often see: Contr

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What if I told you that pain—yes, the very thing you’re trying to escape—might actually be something you’re choosing? Not consciously,...

We often think of "holding space" as a metaphor—but how do we actually do it? Consider the phrase "hold space." How does anything hold...

There is a reason why certain experiences stay with us long after they have passed. The body doesn’t forget. Even when the mind convinces...

What if the parts of yourself you’ve been avoiding—the ones you fear, dislike, or wish didn’t exist—are the very keys to your growth and...

Often when we hear the word “boundary,” we think of it as a wall, a limitation, or something that separates. And in some cases, this is...

One of the most impactful pieces of wisdom I’ve carried from my mentor, Hal, is his frequent reminder: "Tell the truth faster, have more...

We often hear that judgment is something to avoid—something negative or even harmful. But what if judgment is simply a natural response...